Finding Happiness

What makes me happy?

I’ve been pondering this question a lot lately. Is it individual acts and things, or is it the bigger picture? My guess is that a lot of little things add up to the bigger picture, so, in fact, the answer is both.

De-cluttering our house has led me to start examining my life, my person, my self, and see where clean up might help. Are my actions leading me to that fabled place of happiness? Or am I seeking short term fixes that detour my path? I have a feeling it’s a bit of both, and I have a strong desire to explore those things that bring me long term and enduring happiness. Things that keep the ultimate goal in sight and make me a happier person in general.

I’m goal driven. I know this about myself. I’m also ridiculously competitive. I’m not sure if this is something that I do a good job of hiding, or if it’s so obvious that it’s pointless to state. Often, I am fixated on a goal. An end result. Making something. Seeing something come to fruition. Standing back, admiring it, then moving on to the next. The journey isn’t my primary focus, the goal is.

In life, though, this approach doesn’t really work. How’s that saying go? It’s the journey, not the destination. Yes, I lose sight of this all too often. For example, when hiking, I have a destination in mind. I’ll push myself to get there, blinders on, focused on the goal ahead. How much do I miss by taking this approach? What am I giving up by focusing on the target ahead, completely oblivious to the beauty surrounding me in the moment? I know I miss a lot. When I reach the destination, I stick to my schedule. I mentally check each thing my list – reaching the goal, spending the obligatory time taking in the nature around me, snapping photos,consuming lunch/snack/water, starting the trek back.

I enjoy hiking, but I don’t know that it’s for the right reasons. I enjoy being outdoors. I enjoy being away from civilization. But mostly? I enjoy having a goal in mind and seeing it get done. At the end of the day, recalling that we had a plan for the day, and we were successful in setting it in motion.

I don’t think being goal driven is always a bad thing. It pushes me to do things I might otherwise pass up. But I don’t know that it, or things on my lists, bring me happiness. In fact, I’m fairly certain that they don’t. Maybe I can use the goal driven side of me to increase my happiness factor overall. Seeking out things I enjoy, new and old, and setting goals around them to keep them at the forefront of my life. The best of both worlds.

I have a plan for all of this… stay tuned for more.

(tagged – the happiness project)


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Mom to "C", wife to Ben. I'm a part-time blogger, cook, organizer, seamstress, house cleaner, taxi, nurse (the mom kind), accountant... I could go on, but really... it's all in the blog. Read away!

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